Need help talking to teens about how and why to delay sexual activity?
Helping Teens Delay Having Sex
Need help talking to teens about how and why to delay sexual activity?
Helping Teens Delay Having Sex
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Here are some great tips for talking to children about sex and sexuality:
Talking to Kids About Sex and Sexuality
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It's Let's Talk Month, as in "Let's Talk about Sexuality"--all you parents! Here's a cute video with what NOT to say, what TO say, and how to answer those embarrassing and unexpected questions:
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October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and there are a lot of materials, programs, and events happening to stop bullying.
One area that I'd like to call attention to in many bullying situations is the bystander. Bystanders' actions make a significant difference in the outcome of a bullying situation.
More than one-half the time, bullying stops within 10 seconds of a bystander stepping in to help.(Craig, W. M. & Pepler, D. (1997). Observations of bullying and victimization in the school yard. Canadian Journal of School Psychology, 13(2): 41–60.)
Stepping in isn't always safe or practical, and it's not the only way to help. Another way bystanders can be useful is to get help--either by gathering peers for support, or reporting the bullying to an adult who will intervene.
Things that do not help are:
Of these, passively accepting is the most common, and contributes to the problem by providing and audience and not doing anything to stop the harmful behavior. http://www.eyesonbullying.org/bystander.html
Talk to your child about how to be a helpful bystander. Sometimes, a comment will do the trick--reminding someone of the class or school rule, or inviting them to come sit by you. Other times, that isn't safe for the bystander, and he or she should go get a trusted adult to help.
Ask your child to think about a time when he or she saw something happening that was hurtful to someone else, either physically or emotionally. What did s/he do? Is there something else s/he wished s/he would have done? Is the situation still going on? If so, what should s/he do now?
If you are concerned for your or another child's safety, call the school to discuss the situation with the teacher, counselor, or principal. Though they often will not be able to tell you about specific disciplinary actions taken against another student, they can share general information about policies and procedures, and you can share information that you have to help them keep a watchful eye out and keep our children safe.
Sometimes, this takes courage. Talk to your child about this, too. According to the Virtues Project, "Courage is bravery in the face of fear. You do the right thing even when it is hard or scary. When you are courageous, you don't give up. You try new things. You admit mistakes. Courage is the strength in your heart."
Be courageous and teach your child to be, too. There are lots of ways to help stop bullying. Being a helpful bystander is one.
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If your child has special needs, and is part of the special education system, then you are probably familiar with meeting with school team members at least yearly to review your child’s progress and create new goals. Advocate for your child as much as possible. Be sure to share new information from home, the pediatrician, or other professionals working with your child in order to give the educators as complete a picture as possible.
If you need help, consider contacting a parent advocacy agency, such as PAVE (in Washington State—www.wapave.org) Many states have advocacy organizations for parents of children with different disabilities. Some will even attend school meetings with you to make sure your child is getting all the services to which he or she is entitled.
Most of all, trust your intuition. If you believe your child is having trouble learning, continue talking to professionals in order to find out what might be the culprit. Here are some people to consider consulting:
• Your child’s teacher
• Your pediatrician
• The School Counselor or School Social Worker
• The School Nurse
• Other adults who spend time with your child (scoutmaster, dance
instructor, etc)
• Parent advocacy agencies
You know your child, and if something is off, keep looking until you get the
answers you need.
So there you have them: 8 Great Guidelines for a Splendid School Year.
Here’s wishing you a spectacular September!
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Parent involvement in school is one of the key factors in your child’s success. Whether you are able to volunteer in the classroom, chaperone field trips, or offer to make calls or do projects on your own time, get in touch with your child’s teacher and offer to help.
In addition, if at all possible, visit the school and your child’s teacher prior to the first day. This is especially important if it is a new school—either because you’ve moved or been moved, or because your child is transitioning to a new level, such to elementary school from preschool, or to middle school or high school. Simply seeing the school, walking around, and talking to a few friendly people can make a big difference in your child’s transition.
If you are able to meet with the teacher, be as supportive as possible, and also advocate for your child, with some statements like, “I’m sure you will figure this out anyway, but I wanted to let you know my child seems to learn best when she can both see and hear instructions” or “One thing his teacher last year found really worked well with him was to make sure he had a warning before transitioning to a new activity.”
Avoid being negative, demanding, or hovering too much. Remember that the teacher has his or her hands full with a classroom of students, regulations, and other activities.
Join your parent teacher association and attend the meetings. Get involved in any way you can to help make your child’s school a great place for all children.
And finally: Advocating for your child
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Daily Debrief
Take some time each day to debrief with your child about his or her day. Avoid saying, “So, how was your day?” if you routinely get a one word answer, like “Good” or “OK.”
Instead, try some open ended questions like these:
Be willing to answer the question yourself, too, if your child asks. You can also check into some games that are available for conversation starters. Use them in the car or at the dinner table. Give everyone a chance to participate, and watch your connections with each other grow.
Next: Visiting your child's school
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Today’s children are often overscheduled, creating stress for both parents and students. It’s important for parents to discern which activities they are signing up their children for and why. With older children and teens, allowing choice is great, but helping them to understand what is a reasonable amount to take on is equally important.
With young children, remember that their work is play. Directing it too much can impinge on their creativity. Some cities are even moving to more creative playground options, where the children actually build the play structure themselves with a kit of foam blocks and other materials (see: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2007398,00.html). Providing opportunities for this type of play encourages problem-solving, cooperation,
assertiveness, and creativity.
Older children and teens need down time, too. Boredom for them is often a precursor to coming up with a creative idea. Too much down time and too much boredom can lead to poor choices and poor use of impulsivity, but allowing some unstructured time for most children and teens is not a bad thing.
Important questions for parents to ask are:
If you are unsure whether your child is involved in too many activities, check out
these warning signs from scholastic.com:
If your child exhibits a few or more of these on a regular basis, it may be time to consider cutting back.
Next: Daily Debrief